Practical Reasons To Be Excited Expecting Twins (and Not Panic)

A Unique Bond Unlike Any Other

Before twins take their first breath, they already have a companion by their side. From their earliest days, every morning when they wake and every night when they sleep, they know their twin is with them. A twin bond is unique and unlike any other sibling relationship.

It’s impossible to predict what kind of people your twins will become—whether their personalities will remain synchronized, be complementary, or sometimes clash. But what twins can always count on is having someone growing and discovering alongside them. Someone their own age, sharing many of the same lived experiences and childhood memories. A mutual influence on their developing identities.

This deep connection between twins is something that can’t be replicated in other sibling or even loving relationships. It is a precious and rare gift unique to twins.

Savings on the Nonessentials

Raising twins may seem costly, but there are unexpected savings—especially in extracurricular activities. Many children’s programs offer a second-child discount, ranging from 10% to buy-one-get-one-free.

When we enrolled our twins in baby yoga, the fee was per parent, not per baby. The instructor even used one of the twins for demonstrations, giving me cherished one-on-one time with the other. We switched twins every class, which made the experience even more special.

What makes this twin discount benefit especially helpful is that twins are the same age. Many children’s classes are grouped by developmental stage—newborn, crawling, walking, verbal, potty-trained—which can be hard to coordinate with non-twin siblings. While children’s interests may eventually diverge, during the early years, twin parents can take full advantage of savings on programs and classes.

Watching Identities Form in Real Time

Twins are a live demonstration of the nature vs. nurture debate. Though formed together, born minutes apart, and raised in the same environment, each twin interacts with the world in their own unique way.

In the early weeks, the differences might be subtle—perhaps one eats more, sleeps longer, or soothes more quickly. But by around three months, you’ll start to see each child’s personality awaken. From such a young age, your twins begin expressing themselves individually.

Unlike parents of siblings, who may have to recall or check baby books for milestones, you experience both your children’s development in real time—two unique journeys unfolding side by side.

Twins Are More Resilient

From day one, a twin parent’s attention is divided. Two tiny lives rely on you, often at the same time. One baby will always be picked up first, nursed first, or changed first. While it can be heartbreaking to hear one baby waiting, this experience helps develop patience and resilience.

Because help is sometimes delayed, twins gradually learn to self-soothe. They build tolerance for waiting and develop trust that someone will come. This naturally supports their emotional development.

As babies grow and begin to explore, twins constantly interact—sometimes with bumps and scrapes along the way. Curious fingers poke and grab, and wobbly bodies may collapse onto one another. Every day, they learn to share space, toys, and parental attention.

In my experience, twins develop strong social skills. They become more patient, assertive, and self-reliant. Other parents often comment on how confident and well-adjusted my twins are at social gatherings. Although raising twins has its challenges, it’s comforting to know that many of those challenges help shape them into resilient, self-assured individuals.